The truth is the father in my family vacation scenario was leading his family. He was on his way to their agreed upon destination. He didn't go south when he should have gone east. He was headed in the right direction. However, his methods were different than the ones the mother would have chosen, therefore she accused him of not leading them to their destination because he wasn't leading the way she thought he should.
Maybe your husband doesn't lead family devotions or maybe he doesn't lead them the way you would lead them. Maybe he doesn't take the position at church that you think he should. Maybe he reads His Bible at night instead of early in the morning like you do. God just says, "Submit". No exception clause other than a husband leading us into sin.
Before we accuse our husbands of not being spiritual leaders, let us ask ourselves: Are we going in the right direction to arrive at our Heavenly destination? If so, then sit back and enjoy the ride. No vacation is complete without a few surprises!