Sometimes, I may set aside household chores to read aloud to a child. That's flexibility. Other times, I may leave dishes in the sink and sit on the couch with a book. That, at least for me, borders on laziness.
A toddler throws a tantrum during a math lesson with my 4th grader, so I send her to practice piano while I deal with the disciplinary action. That's flexibility. Or I may skip math altogether and go to the park. That, at least on some days, teaches my child that fun comes before work when it should be the other way around.
Just because I have the freedom to make my own schedule and set my own rules as a mom not employed outside the home does not mean that I should just let every day "happen". That's not flexibility at all. It's a good recipe for chaos!
When I "change up" the routine for whatever reason, I try to answer these questions in my mind:
- Am I making a conscious decision as to what is best for our family or am I just reacting to a perceived "emergency"?
- Am I making this change in order to make people in my life a priority or will this change affect my family or my children's training negatively?
- In the light of eternity, what is more important: this change or sticking to the original plan?