Sound like a silly question? Maybe so. However, when I hear some women talk, I think they get a bit confused. Maybe I get confused sometimes, though I'm trying to keep clarity on this issue.
For example, some women talk to me like they are married to a child. They say things like, "He acts like one of the kids." and "He just wants me to baby him all the time." Many times the husband in question is the main breadwinner of the family and does a lot of things for his wife. Sometimes wives even talk to them in the condescending tone that mothers reserve for their 2-year-olds. I think they just might be confused about to whom they are married.
Some women think they are married to a patient--even if they're not doctors. I always cringe when someone tells me she is putting her husband on a diet, for example. To me, that is not something one does to a spouse. I mean, I would be mortified if my husband told me what I could and couldn't eat because he wanted me to lose weight. Not that I couldn't benefit from it, but I pay my doctor for health advice. Therefore, I wonder why women try to play doctor to their husbands---more confusion on to whom they are married, I suppose.
Other women think they are married to their father. As in how a three-year-old little girl relates to her father. Their husbands don't notice their new outfit, and they pout. Someone hurts their feelings and they expect their husband to champion their cause. Their husband makes a suggestion for improvement and they go to their room and cry. I'm thankful my father taught me not to act like this (even if I haven't always heeded his training), but some women just must be confused on their relationships to their husbands.
One other confusion I see is that sometimes women think they are married to their mothers. They drag him reluctantly into store after store while they shop. They curl up and cry and want their husband to tsk, "There, there" or something else their mother would say. They get sick and expect him to wait on them hand and foot.
Maybe a lot of our marriage problems would be solved if we would just remember we are married to a husband. I'm trying to remember that. How about you?