One of my favorite books from my bookshelf on making your home a place unique to you and a place which you enjoy is Emilie Barnes' Simple Secrets to A Beautiful Home. It is full of practical, doable tips and, true to Emilie Barnes style, is organized in a way that you can access them when you need them. I would highly recommend this book for your home bookshelf.
Here a few links on making our home a place where the family wants to be:
Simple Mom's Using Aromas to Lift Our Moods
What not to do, Shrines of Materialism and A True Home from A Wise Woman Builds Her Home
Laura from Heavenly Homemakers tells us that she loves her home here