Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Does the Golden Rule Apply to Marriage?

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." You have probably heard it quoted a million times by Christians and non-Christians alike. We know what it means, at least on an intellectual level. We even try to practice it with our friends and family members most of the time. But, I've been wondering lately, do we practice it in our marriages? Do we really treat our spouses, the ones that are closest and dearest to us, as we want to be treated ourselves?

  • Do you want your husband to roll his eyes when talking to his friends and tell them how you are so irresponsible with the money and you shop all the time? 
  • Would you like him to tell them you are just like a big kid and how he has to keep you in line so you'll be responsible? 
  • Do you want him to cut you off when you're talking and correct you? 
  • Do you want him to question your discipline in front of the kids and tell you how you should have done it?
  • Do you want him to bug you endlessly about how the laundry really needs caught up and would you do it today because he can't stand it anymore?
  • Do you want him to complain when you sit down with a book or in front of the computer because you need to spend time with the family instead of doing something you enjoy sometimes?
I think most of these actions from our husbands would cause us along with all of our friends to rise up in indignation at how he isn't respecting our needs or how he doesn't understand us. Yet many of us find it easy to say and do similar things to our husbands. Maybe it's time for a little old-fashioned "do unto others". What do you think?


  1. Great post. I agree completely! I think that a lot of women put way to much time in talking about all the things their husbands should be doing instead of accomplishing something productive themselves. We are human and all have faults, that is why we have someone to love us no matter what our faults are. :)

  2. That is very true. Thank you for a great post.


  3. Girl you are so right! Excellent post!

  4. Thanks for reading, Courtney and Beth!

  5. Ouch...yeah...good post! We need a little wake-up now and then! :0)

  6. Yeah, it's an ouch for me, too, but I really think it's important!

  7. I've never replied to a post on a blog before, but this one really hit home with me! Thanks for the little "wake up"!! :)

  8. Thank you so much for posting a comment, Anonymous! God bless your marriage!