My recent shopping trip with my husband got me thinking again about the whole dress issue. No, you haven't read any posts about dress yet from me, but we've all heard about it a million times from a hundred different sources.
We women can be strange creatures, really. We dress up to impress the guy we want to ask us out (or to talk to our father, for those that practice courting). After we get married, we think it's just fine to wear old clothes around the house because we "already got him". We want our wedding gown to please our groom, but later we bristle when he raises a question about an outfit we like. We are careful on dates to dress modestly so our boyfriend won't be tempted or think we are "bad", however we aren't as careful to dress modestly around other Christian men to whom we aren't even married. After all, it's "their problem, not ours".
Maybe I'm a bit old-fashioned, but my father always evaluated my wardrobe when I lived at home. If he thought something I was going to buy was immodest, I trusted his opinion because he was a man and knew how men think. Now my husband does the same thing. Unfortunately, I haven't always appreciated their concern. However, I've come to realize through the dealings of the Holy Spirit that my husband treasures me, therefore he wants me to be seen as his and his alone.
I heard Nancy Leigh DeMoss speak once about a side of the issue that had never occurred to me (I'm a little dense sometimes!). A woman needs to not only consider her Lord and her husband as she dresses, but her Christian brothers as well. They have the responsibility to keep themselves pure in a world full of perversion and lust. When they come to church, they should be able to relax, so to speak. The church should not be a place to fight temptation but a place to refresh themselves from the temptations they have faced through the week.
Nancy says it like this:
She [the Christian woman] needs to walk as she would with a candle, if she were holding a candle, into a room filled with straw or gunpowder. She needs to be careful about how she exercises and exhibits her feminine wonders.No, of course it isn't a physical explosion. It goes much deeper than that. Our stubbornness about that favorite outfit can cost a Christian brother his soul and lead him to adultery. Yes, adultery, because Jesus said all it takes is a look to commit the sin of lust.
... "If she's not careful, there may be an explosion; a flame after it's too late to do anything about it."
Will you join me in carefully honoring our husbands by allowing them to voice their concerns and even to make changes in our wardrobes? Someone's life might depend on it--spiritual life, that is.